What Your Child Will Really Get Out of Montessori
September 16, 2019

Is it really worth it?

 I mean, why should you spend the time, effort and money to find an authentic Montessori program for your child? Wouldn’t it be easier to just find a good, basic preschool

Montessori children playing outdoors

For me, the answer is easy - enrolling my children in a Montessori program was one of the best decisions I made as a parent. But, then again, I am a bit biased!
 
​For most parents, however, the question remains: “What will my child really get out of attending a Montessori school?” I’m going to go out on a limb - my guess is that you did not attend a Montessori school when you were a child.



This isn’t a problem, of course. You turned out just fine. But, as you consider early education options for your child, your own educational experiences can make the decision a bit difficult.

Montessori child working on practical life skills

At first glance, Montessori classrooms don’t look familiar to most people. There are no rows of desks, no blackboards and no teaching to the entire class. Parents are often intrigued by the peaceful, calm environment and the hum of activity, with young children choosing their own activities and concentrating deeply for long periods of time.

Montessori child painting

Montessori is so different, however, from traditional programs that it’s natural to leave a bit perplexed. I mean, what is really going on here? In a conventional pre-school, your child will focus on “pre-reading and pre-math” with workbooks, flash cards and rote memorization. Think ABC and 1-2-3.

In a conventional school, your child will need to adjust to the schedule of a traditional school, so they have activities where everyone does this same thing at the same time. Think group art projects where your child will learn to color within the lines.

In a conventional school, your child will need to learn how to pay attention to one teacher lecturing to the group. Think long circle times with one teacher talking to all the children together.

There is nothing wrong with this, of course. In a Montessori classroom, however, we believe your child deserves an education that focuses on all aspects him as a human being.

Montessori child reading

How Montessori is Different: A Three Word Answer

Education for Life

Rather than just preparing your child for the next step in school, we seek to support his academic, social, emotional, intellectual and spiritual development. We want him to be successful at life in the future, not just in kindergarten.

Take a second to imagine your child twenty years from now. What skills will he need to be successful in college, his chosen profession and in life in general?

Montessori child working in the classroom
Montessori child working in the classroom

Here is a primer. He will need to:


  • Know how to regulate his behavior
  • Control his impulses
  • Learn to plan and strategize
  • Hone the ability to problem solve
  • Learn to be flexible and course-correct when necessary
  • Learn to take initiative
  • Develop responsibility
  • Engage in depth-based thinking requiring long periods of concentration
  • Work collaboratively with peers on projects 


Researchers who study the traits of successful adults coined the term for these skills:“executive functions”.

Montessori child working in the classroom

These executive function skills, that are so important to life’s success, must be continually developed, day in and day out, or else they will not materialize. They result from the way an activity is done and the time spent doing it – pushing oneself to do better and better.

Montessori child painting

The Link Between Montessori and Executive Functions
 
Research comparing children attending Montessori schools with those attending traditional schools was conducted by University of Virginia professor, Dr. Angeline Lillard, and was published in the prestigious journal, Science, in September 2006.
 
 The result?

Montessori child washing his hands

Montessori students rated higher on “executive function skills”- skills like selective attention, self- control, problem solving, reasoning and not getting into trouble.


On behavioral and social tests, 5 year old Montessori children scored higher than their peers from conventional schools, showing that they had a greater sense of fairness and justice; out on the playground, they were more likely to engage more in emotionally positive play with their peers and less in rough housing.

Montessori child reading

And, yes, your child will still be ready academically for elementary school, whether in Montessori or any other program. The same study found that among the 5 year olds who were studied, Montessori children were prepared to enter first grade with strong reading and math skills. Additionally, the executive function skills gained in a Montessori environment assist the child in making the transition to first grade. 

The Choice is Yours

Is Montessori worth it? You decide. You, as the parent, are charged with raising your child in the best way you see fit. What do you value? What kind of adult do you want your child to become? There are a multitude of options available to you. Only you can decide what is the best fit for your family. 

Montessori child playing outdoors

We invite you to come tour our school, speak with our director, and see for yourself the Montessori difference. We still have a few spaces available for Fall 2019. Don't miss this extraordinary opportunity! Email us now to set up your personalized tour or visit our online scheduling tool. We can't wait to meet you!

Montessori children washing their hands

All photos in this post are courtesy of Meg Porter Photography. Thank you Meg, for capturing these beautiful images from the first days of school in the Toddler Class. 

By Elizabeth Horgan, Ph.D. October 23, 2025
Starting school is one of the biggest milestones in a child’s early life. For children entering Montessori school, this transition can come as early as the second year of life. The first few weeks in a new school or class are an exciting time of growth and adjustment that can also come with some big feelings (for parents and kids alike!). Having clear expectations and open conversation with your child can help the transition go smoothly for everyone. Here are some key things we recommend keeping in mind as your child starts school: Expect Big Feelings: Transitions are tricky for little ones, and getting out of the car and into the school building can be a big step for your child. Even the most confident kiddos may feel nervous when starting school. Tears, clinging to a parent, or reluctance to say goodbye can be tough to see, but are completely normal in the early weeks of the transition. As the parent, remember that your calmness helps reassure your child that all is well and they will be okay! Talk positively about school and share excitement about your child’s new experiences. Take Time to Learn New Routines: A consistent morning and drop-off routine can help your child adapt more quickly to going to school. Keep your mornings calm and predictable to avoid a rushed drop-off. When you get to school, think about incorporating a special routine you do with your child right before they get out of the car. Then make the drop off short and sweet! Even something as simple as a special phrase or prayer you say before your child exits the car can help them begin to know what to expect. Also, remember that at the beginning of the school year, children are learning new rhythms in the classroom as well. Where to put their things, how to follow the class schedule, and how to choose and complete their work are all big things for your little one. Be patient as your child adjusts. Keep an Open Mind about “Learning”: Remember that in Montessori school, much of the child’s daily work does not look like what you may expect from typical academics. Especially for the toddler class, children spend the majority of their time learning practical life skills, building social skills, practicing courtesy and manners, and engaging in their own self-care. You may not notice dramatic changes in your child’s knowledge or behavior in the first month. Things like putting shoes on and off, cleaning up after snack time, and preparing food are small steps that set the foundation for future learning. Give Social Connections Time to Grow: Some children may connect with their teacher and friends right away, while others may take some more time to join in and build connections. This is completely normal. As children become comfortable with their school community, they will build a sense of security, belonging, and purpose. Give your child time to find their place in the community, and soon they will thrive. Encouraging Independence Gives Children Confidence: Help your child take agency in their own school journey. Encourage them to choose their own clothes and assist them in learning to dress themselves. Include your child in packing their lunch or preparing their school items the night before. Remember why you chose Cross of Life Montessori: Adjustment takes time. But with patience, consistency, and support, the first few weeks at school can build the foundation for years of joy and growth ahead. Children pick up on your emotions and feelings. Even if you are feeling a little bit nervous (which is completely normal!) try to show your child that you are confident in the decision to send them to our school and say goodbye with a smile. They are in wonderful hands! Our teachers have decades of training and practice in helping children adapt to their new environment and are delighted to help your little one find their place. At Cross of Life Montessori, we’re here to walk alongside your family as you adjust to new rhythms, routines, and ways of learning. We’re so excited to participate in your child’s growth and learning! The first few weeks at a new school are a period of adjustment and trust-building as children settle into their new Montessori community. By knowing what to expect and supporting your child with calm routines and encouragement, you can help make the transition to school a positive experience for the whole family. We can’t wait to see your child in class!
By Elizabeth Horgan, PhD May 20, 2025
The Power of Routine for Young Children–Order, Predictability, and Independence